In today's society, freelancing and traveling have become a lifestyle pursued by many people, but this is also accompanied by a lot of anxiety. This time, two women of different ages, 30-year-old [Blogger Name 1] and 39-year-old [Blogger Name 2], had an in-depth conversation in Hong Kong, discussing topics such as age, appearance, retirement, anxiety, and feminism. Awakening and longing for life.
[Blogger Name 1], 30, and [Blogger Name 2], 39, both admit to experiencing anxiety. Among them, age anxiety and appearance anxiety are topics they often mention. Although [Blogger Name 2] is 39 years old, her appearance anxiety is relatively mild. She believes that the living environment she lives in has less judgment on people and more daily exercise, which is very helpful to maintain good condition.
Looking back on his own experience, [Blogger Name 1] decided to start running marathons when he was 30-31 years old because of a classmate’s unintentional remark about physical strength. Long-distance running not only gave her psychological and spiritual vitality, but also improved her figure and face shape, making her look upward, thus gradually getting rid of appearance anxiety. After all, much of the appearance anxiety that many women worry about stems from the feeling of body sagging, and the upright posture and skin-up feeling brought about by exercise can greatly alleviate this anxiety.
Regarding the exercise plan, [Blogger Name 1] shared his personal experience: ensure at least 3-5 times of aerobic exercise every week, each time for more than 30-40 minutes, and calculate the fat-burning heart rate, usually (220 - age) ×(0.6 - 0.7) interval. In addition to exercise, light fasting is also a good method. For example, the 16:8 light fasting method means that three meals a day are eaten within eight hours. If you find fasting for 16 hours challenging at first, start at 14:10. This not only helps to lose fat, but also cultivates good living habits and avoids stomach damage due to bad eating habits.
Both bloggers also delve into feminist awareness. [Blogger Name 2] grew up in a single-parent family. From the age of 10 to 11, her mother and grandmother had a profound influence on her. At that time, grandma's mother, as the eldest wife, was deceived by her husband and decided to divorce. Her grandmother not only went to college, but continued studying after giving birth. The mother even juggles work and raising children herself, and manages both aspects very well. These experiences made [Blogger Name 2] realize that women do not necessarily have to rely on men to achieve results and cope with life difficulties.
Although [Blogger Name 2] was exposed to the concept of feminism in books when he was growing up, it was only through actual practice that he realized the importance of integrating knowledge and action. She was deeply saddened to see that many people knew the ideals of feminism but still lived under the male gaze or compromised their family life. For example, in school, girls are often judged for their appearance, and the girls on Xiaohongshu received all kinds of comments about their appearance when they posted photos. Even though her appearance was praised, [Blogger Name 2] was still unhappy inside. She doesn't like titles such as "the most beautiful sister" and "the most beautiful teacher". She believes that women should be judged on more than just their appearance, just like men should be judged on more than just their appearance. Same.
Since the age of 30, the two have begun to pay attention to the topic of elderly care, especially the issue of their parents’ elderly care. After the age of 55, parents begin to suffer from various physical conditions, which makes them deeply aware that their parents have entered an age where health problems may occur.
[Blogger Name 2] I woke up late. He didn't understand many things until he was 33-34 years old. He was eager to explore life in different places, but by this time his parents couldn't wait any longer. For example, she originally planned to travel to Europe in May, but had to put it on hold because her father had to undergo high-risk cervical spine surgery. Faced with this situation, she not only had to endure the emotional sadness, but also learned relevant knowledge and dealt with practical problems.
They both had concerns about travel and life plans due to their parents' health conditions. However, they also proposed some coping methods, such as taking parents for a physical examination, which can predict health status to a certain extent, and purchasing insurance before the physical examination can reduce the probability of problems within a few months after the physical examination. The exam is relatively low, which can give you more peace of mind when traveling.
Talking about life after the age of 40, [Blogger Name 2] hopes to travel to various places and stay in each country for about a month. Considering his parents' considerations, he may choose to go out for two or three months, then return to China for a period of time, and then continue traveling. She hopes to pursue a career related to education and impact others by sharing knowledge and other content. This is where her sense of worth and gain comes from. At the same time, I hope that when I am 35 years old, I can maintain a similar state to what I am now, doing things that I am interested in and willing to invest in for a long time, which will not only bring happiness, but also maintain basic life needs. The ideal situation is to have one person to explore the world with.
[Blogger Name 1] also hopes to go out more in the next five years, delve into different cultural environments, communicate and establish connections with local people, and break the limited perspectives and ways of thinking in the past.
They made a five-year agreement, hoping that when they record the show again in five years, they will be more confident and mature, get rid of the anxiety of age and appearance, and calmly face the camera and life. I wish I was more relaxed, more self-contained and freer then than I am now.
Through this conversation, we saw the anxieties and thoughts of women of different ages in their freelance and travel life, and also felt their positive attitudes and good expectations for life. I hope everyone can gain strength from sharing and bravely face various challenges in life. Everyone is welcome to share your opinions and experiences in the comment area, and don’t forget to like and share so that more people can learn from this in-depth conversation.
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