Sitting next to the sea view, bathing in the morning sunshine, have you ever thought about what kind of training ground love and marriage are? Today, let us walk into this confession together and talk about the ten years of marriage and the profound revelations it has brought to us.
Ten years is a long time for a marriage. In these ten years, we have experienced a transformation from unfamiliarity to familiarity, from running-in to tacit understanding. Time allows us to understand each other better, and it also makes us cherish this hard-won relationship more. But at the same time, we are also facing many challenges and changes.
As time goes by, we may gradually begin to take the other person’s strengths and shining points for granted. We start to pay more attention to each other's shortcomings and areas for improvement, and neglect to discover more good things. This mentality may lead us to anxiety and dissatisfaction, affecting the harmony of our marriage.
Facing these changes, we need to learn to face them with a more positive and optimistic attitude. We must realize that marriage is a practice that requires us to constantly adapt and grow. We need to learn to discover each other's beauty, appreciate each other's differences, and tolerate each other's shortcomings. Only in this way can we make this relationship longer and stronger.
In the practice of marriage, it is easy for us to fall into a victim mentality. We may complain that the other person doesn’t care enough about us or understand us enough, or even blame the other person. But in fact, the essence of spiritual practice is to regard yourself as the protagonist and take responsibility for yourself. We need to realize that all growth and happiness come from ourselves, not from outside ourselves.
To adjust our mentality, we need to learn to accept and love ourselves. Only when we truly love ourselves can we have enough energy to love others. At the same time, we must also learn to be grateful to the people and things around us, including the other half in our marriage. We should be grateful for the happiness and growth they bring us, and also be grateful for the traces they leave in our lives.
Happiness is not a result, but a choice. In marriage, we must choose to feel happiness instead of complaining and blaming. We must learn to be grateful for all the good things in life, including meeting our partner, growing up and experiencing together. Only in this way can we truly feel the existence of happiness.
To feel happy, we need to learn to let go of past baggage and future worries. We need to focus on the present and cherish every moment in front of us. At the same time, we must also learn to appreciate each other's differences and beauty, and understand and tolerate each other's shortcomings and shortcomings. Only in this way can we truly feel happiness and satisfaction in marriage.
Ten years of married life have given us a deeper understanding of the truth about love and marriage. It is not only a kind of emotional communication and dependence, but also a process of spiritual practice. In this process, we continue to grow, change, and adapt. In the end, we learned how to face the challenges and difficulties of life, and how to cherish and be grateful for the people and things around us. This is the greatest gain and growth that marriage brings us.
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